“I wanted to do this to be honored, to be seen,” Orr told CNN.
To Orr, her faith and identity aren’t at odds
Orr said she had been comfortable at BYU until she felt attracted to another woman.
“I felt like I was forced to choose between my spirituality and sexuality,” Ha detto Orr. “It created this inner turmoil and despair, because they’re both so important to me.”
Orr spent time reconciling her bisexuality with the teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
, which holds that gay
, lesbian and bisexual people can
“fully and worthily participate in the Church
” so long as they don’t act on their same-sex attraction
. (The church holds that sex is
“reserved for a man and woman who are married.
“I did keep it hidden,” she said of a past queer relationship. “The only people who knew were my immediate family. People I knew could turn me in if they knew. I never felt I was fully authentic.”
Lei felt confident, after speaking with her best friend and mentor, that her faith and her queerness weren’t at odds with each other.
“The church didn’t give me my relationship with God; the church didn’t give me my spirituality,” lei disse. “That was mine. I owned that.”
LGBTQ students were affected by honor code changes
Negli ultimi due anni, LGBTQ students at BYU have seen their school seem to bend to inclusion
, only to then double down on exclusion
. Nel 2020, weeks before the pandemic would halt in-person classes
, BYU administrators removed a passage from the university’s honor code that explicitly banned
” Al tempo, LGBTQ students were cautiously optimistic that this meant they could be more open about their relationships on campus
Then came the apparent reversal
: Two weeks after students celebrated what they believed was a major change to the honor code
, the church chiarito
quella “homosexual behavior
” was still
” with the school’s values
, who was on campus during the whirlwind of celebration and subsequent letdown
, called the announcement a
“kick in the knees.
Orr said she was ready to
“get to the finish line
” and graduate so she wouldn’t have to shield her identity on campus
, a process made easier when she was attending classes virtually
. Ma, in a viral TikTok and in conversation with CNN
, she recalled taking a quiz her senior year in which students were given a prompt about the actions of
“one who truly loves LGBTQ people.
” Orr said the answer she chose
, which included unconditional love and acceptance
, was marked incorrect
“I had these courses that were causing me to betray myself through my own homework,” lei disse.
BYU did not immediately respond to multiple CNN requests for comment on the quiz and Orr’s actions on the graduation stage.
BYU students and alumni have supported Orr
Immediately after her graduation gown reveal, Orr said her fellow students were immensely supportive.
, il 2019 BYU valedictorian who used his graduation speech to come out
, praised Orr for using the commencement stage to make a statement
“BYU can prohibit speakers from coming out
, but they can’t keep students from sharing their truth
,” lui twittato late last month
. “Feeling very inspired by this graduate using commencement to come out.
Orr, who’s now a director of an after-school program for young people, said her spirituality is intact, but her relationship with the Mormon Church is fractured.
“I have a lot of gratitude and I have a lot of pain,” lei disse. “Così, in questo momento, I can no longer affiliate with a religion that is not all inclusive.”
As for the university, Orr said she doesn’t hold any ill will toward the school. She said she hopes it heeds the calls of its LGBTQ students and allies to better support them.
“I will give BYU space to change,” lei disse. “I think they’re capable of it.”