Should your teens be watching 'Euphoria'? E come dovresti parlarne con loro?

Sign up for CNN’s Stress, Ma Meno newsletter. Il progetto Goodwill alla scuola della California diventa virale.

Un adolescente tira una valigia piena di droga, another is the victim of statutory rape, and many sex scenes show full-frontal nudity. Quello è “Euforia,” which might be your favorite showbut it’s understandable if it is not the model you want for your own teens.

So what do you do if they are already binging it?
The most underrated parenting tool is the pause button on your TV remote, disse therapist John Duffy, who specializes in work with teens, genitori, coppie e famiglie.
    Use it to pause violence, abuso di sostanze, sexually explicit content or even just morally gray situations and start a conversation between you and your child, added Duffy, who is based in Chicago.
      As kids and teens watch more of their entertainment on their personal devices, it can be difficult to know exactly what they are taking in. And with shows like “13 Le ragioni per cui,” “Game of Thrones” e più di recente “Euforia,” the content teens are talking about with their friends appears to have gotten darker and more mature in their themes in recent years, said Lisa Damour, an Ohio-based clinical psychologist.
        It may be alarming to see your child go from laughing along with SpongeBob to being glued to a show where teenagers are doing drugs, having sex and engaging in violencebut the answer may not lie in a lecture or all-out ban, said Lisa Ramirez, a child and adolescent psychologist at the MetroHealth System in Cleveland.
        The challenge is, once they hit 15, you can’t really regulate what they watch,” disse Damour. “The effort to be helpful to them has to come much more in the form of having meaningful conversations.
          No matter how uncomfortable it may be, having open conversations with your younger kids, tweens and teens about the shows they watch can help them put the shows in context, develop their value system and know they have support if they find themselves in tough situations, experts said.
          It’s better to be in on that conversation and use that pause button to talk about it then to be completely out of it altogether and in the dark about what your child is watching,” Duffy said.
          Starting early, being in the know and leading with questions can help your family build positive experienceseven if you aren’t thrilled about what your kids are streaming.

          Start talking early

          On the first day of school, a second grader may be thrilled to know their dad thinks their outfit is cool. By fifth grade, they may not care so much, Ramirez said.
          As we transition out of childhood and into adolescence, the opinions we care about most shift from our family’s to our peers’, lei ha aggiunto. It can help to build a habit of communicating about the world and values before that transition happens.
          Conversations don’t need to be limited to sex, drugs and rock and rollit’s helpful for families to talk kids through the tamer stuff as well, Ramirez said.
          What do you think about how that character was treated? What would you do if you were in their shoes? Have you ever seen anyone be left out at school?
          We can’t always protect them from everything, and so we have to help build that ability to work through things and to understand when something feels not right,” Ramirez said.

          Know what they are watching

          There is no way my kids are watching anything explicit,” you might be thinking. And you would likely be wrong, Duffy said.
          I will hear from kids that they are watching something that their parents are certain they are not watching,” Egli ha detto.
          Even if they aren’t watching on the TV in the living room, they could be on their phone or at friends’ case, Egli ha detto. (Long gone is the time when television shows were only on the one television in the house.)
          It’s important to start by getting familiar with what they are actually watching and even watch it yourself, disse Damour. A show like “Euforia” can either sound a lot better or a lot worse, depending on who describes it to you, Ramirez added.
          If you can stand itand if your teen allows ittry watching their shows with them so you can give context and ask questions in real time, Duffy said. It may be uncomfortable to watch and talk about a scene with adult behavior next to your teen, but it can help to be clear about it.
          Be really explicit about it,” Duffy said. Prova questo: “We have to talk about sex because it’s important. I’m not comfortable with it, and I don’t expect you to be comfortable with it,” Duffy suggested.
          Then you can come up with an agreement together about how you will talk about itlike setting timers to only talk in short bursts, Ha aggiunto.

          Lead with questions

          Let’s say it turns out your kid is watching something you are not comfortable with. Your impulse may tell you to talk at them about why it is inappropriate and why they are not allowed to ever watch it again, disse Damour. Take a pause and talk with them instead.
          Start with questions asking things about what their reaction to the content is, why they were interested in watching, and if they have experienced things like what they saw on the show, Ramirez said.
          You might find that they are also unsettled by the same things you are or that they have questions you can answer, disse Damour. You can also then bring up a conversation about your values as a family and how you hope they respond to the pressures they may find in their teenage years, lei ha aggiunto.

          Help shape what they see as normal

          A teenage girl told Damour that she was watching a show that depicted rape, and when her father responded to the scene with shock, she felt validated, disse Damour.
          Her father’s reaction reassured the teen that she was right to feel disturbed by the violence, disse Damour.
          Depictions in media can normalize sexual violence for teens, disse Damour. Knowing what they are seeing can jump-start conversations about what they can view as normal and what they shouldn’t, Duffy said.
          Helping them shape those perceptions can be especially important when it comes to representations of people of color or LGBTQ people, Ramirez said.
            Representations of these groups can often be incomplete or inaccurate, and watching shows together opens the door to talk about stereotypes and celebrate shows that present diversity in a more positive way, lei ha aggiunto.
            Some of these topics may seem difficult and complicated, but a direct approach is often helpful, Ramirez said. And while you may not be able to dictate everything they watch, you can guide how your teens think about it, lei ha aggiunto.

            I commenti sono chiusi.