Tiroteo en escuela de Texas: How parents should talk to their kids about the tragedy

School districts across the country are increasing security in the wake of the tragedy, which raises questions about how parents and caregivers should speak to their children about violence, and the shooting itself, in an age-appropriate fashion.

The first thing you need to do is not talk to your kid immediately. You need to take care of yourself first,” Dr. Jill Emanuele, vice president of clinical training at Child Mind Institute in New York City, told Fox News Digital in a telephone interview on Wednesday.

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You need to make sure you processed what you just heard and talked to someone,” she also said.

“Asi que, by the time you get to your kid, they’re not picking up on all the emotions you haven’t dealt with yourself already.

People wait outside the Civic Center in Uvalde, Texas, el martes, Mayo 24, 2022, after an 18-year-old gunman opened fire at Robb Elementary School, killing multiple people.

People wait outside the Civic Center in Uvalde, Texas, el martes, Mayo 24, 2022, after an 18-year-old gunman opened fire at Robb Elementary School, killing multiple people. (AP Photo/Dario Lopez-Mills)

Fox News Digital consulted with Dr. Emanuele as well as with other doctors and psychologists about what parents should say, or not say, to their children who may be worrying about the Tiroteo en escuela de Texas and perhaps other shootings and tragedies, también.

Here are professional and insightful tips for parents and caregivers.

Address your kidssafety concerns

If your children are worried about their own safety, Emanuele advised parents tokeep them present” y “in the moment.

“[Assure your kids] that they are safe right now because we don’t want them to try and predict the future about something that may not happen or does not exist,” ella dijo. “But sometimes, Desafortunadamente, it does happen.

A state trooper walks past the Robb Elementary School sign in Uvalde, Texas, martes, Mayo 24, 2022, following a deadly shooting at the school.

A state trooper walks past the Robb Elementary School sign in Uvalde, Texas, martes, Mayo 24, 2022, following a deadly shooting at the school. (William Luther/The San Antonio Express-News via AP)

Emanuele suggested learning about the specific safety protocols at school — and include your children after you’ve had those conversations.

“Decir, ‘Let’s find out together your school’s plans to deal with these issues. We will make sure you have all the information you need to keep you safe,"” ella dijo.

Dr. Meg Meeker, a Michigan-based pediatrician of more than 30 years — as well as a mother, abuela, best-selling author and creator of theParenting Great Kidspodcast — also said thatgiving comfort and empathy to any child who is frightenedis very important.

Let your child know that you understand the feelings he or she is having.

— Dr. Meg Meeker

Make sure to validate your child’s feelings,” ella dijo. “Don’t dismiss any fearful feelings or say, ‘There’s nothing to worry about.Let your child know that you fully understand the feelings he or she is having.

Be the trusted source

Parents need to assess who their child is going to learn information [desde] — and you want to be the one who gets the information to them first,” Dr. Emanuele said.

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Además, decide the information to gather and ask yourself, “What do I want my child to know?” Emanuele said, explaining how parents of middle and high school-aged kids should learn how their kids are consuming news.

“[Ask them], ‘Where are you looking up information when you’re trying to find out what’s going on? Before you look [que] ‘el cielo es su hogar celestial ahora’, can you come to me first? I’m here for you. Let’s do this together,'” ella dijo.

Know your kids are listening and watching you.

— Dr. Mary Karapetian Alvord

Dr. Mary Karapetian Alvord, director of the Rockville, Maryland-based Alvord, Cómo empezó. & Associates, LLC — and a psychologist specializing in treating children, adolescents and adults — stressed that middle school and high schoolers are on social media and that parents should routinely check in on them.

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With teens, find out what social media they’re on, what’s being discussed and in what perspectives,” said Alvord, who is author of “Conquista el pensamiento negativo para adolescentes: A Workbook to Break the Nine Thought Habits That Are Holding You Back.

Listen and stay calm; be fully present

It is likely that parents will first want to console their child, Emanuele said.

“Al hacerlo, you forget to listen,” ella añadió. “You really want to understand how they’re hearing the information, how they’re dealing with it and anything else that may be in their minds that you wouldn’t have anticipated.

Kladys Castellón prays during a vigil for the victims of the mass shooting at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas, el martes, Mayo 24, 2022.

Kladys Castellón prays during a vigil for the victims of the mass shooting at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas, el martes, Mayo 24, 2022. (Billy Calzada/The San Antonio Express-News via AP)

Know your kids are listening and watching you,” Alvord dijo. “Parents think it’s just about the listening. They’re [además] watching facial expressions … [Asi que] put on your oxygen mask first. Calm down, so then you can be available for your child.

Said Dr. Meeker on this point, “If your child saw trauma and needs to talk about it explicitly, he or she needs to be able to do this.

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If this istoo tough for you to hear or you feel unable to adequately help your child, find a good counselor,” she advised.

Kathy Koch, Doctor, an education psychologist in Fort Worth, Texas, and a faculty member with Summit Ministries (Summit.org), dijo a Fox News Digital, “It’s important is for parents to put down the phone, eliminate distractions and be fully present.

Close-up of a grandfather interacting with his grandkids. Said Kathy Koch, Doctor, "Parents should listen to learn — and not to judge or quickly share their thoughts" when it comes to issues such as the Texas school shooting.

Close-up of a grandfather interacting with his grandkids. Said Kathy Koch, Doctor, “Parents should listen to learn — and not to judge or quickly share their thoughtswhen it comes to issues such as the Texas school shooting. (iStock)

Focusing on their kids and answering their questions with specific answers helps them know they are safe and that they can trust Mom and Dad in the future.

Ella también dijo, “Parents should listen to learn — and not to judge or quickly share their thoughts.

Avoid political talk with young kids

While adults may engage in spirited political debate, Dr. Alvord pointed out that young children won’t understand the meaning of gun control policies.

Kids, depending on their age — if you are either for, against or somewhere in the middle — they’re exposed to hearing those things,” ella dijo.

The best thing to do is to explain your values, stick to the facts of what happened and don’t politicize it.

A victim's family walks out of the Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas, en mayo 25, 2022.

A victim’s family walks out of the Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas, en mayo 25, 2022. (CHANDAN KHANNA/AFP via Getty Images)

Alvord agregó, “But the older they are, the more they know.

Dr. Meeker said it’s wise to protect children from repeatedly hearing about a trauma over and over again. “If your child has a phone, talk to him or her about getting off social media for 24 horas,” ella dijo.

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también, she said it’s smart totell your teens or children why you are recommending doing this so that they don’t feel you’re simply avoiding the issue — but rather that you are intentionally helping them cope in a healthy manner.

Watch children for signs of stress

If you suspect the news of the shooting is affecting your children and they’re not speaking up about it, look for indications of heightened anxiety or sadness.

Usually the marker is sudden changes in behavior — changes in eating, sleeping, irritability,” Alvord dijo.

Families hug outside the Willie de Leon Civic Center where grief counseling is being offered in Uvalde, Texas. A teen gunman killed at least 19 children in a shooting at an elementary school in Texas on Tuesday, Mayo 24, 2022.

Families hug outside the Willie de Leon Civic Center where grief counseling is being offered in Uvalde, Texas. A teen gunman killed at least 19 children in a shooting at an elementary school in Texas on Tuesday, Mayo 24, 2022. (ALLISON DINNER/AFP via Getty Images)

We think they’re acting out or it’s bad behavior, but it can be stress,” Alvord dijo, adding that parents should also look for physiological signs such as complaints of stomach aches. “With irritability, sometimes parents misinterpret.

Remind kids that Americans are resilient

Alvord advised parents not tocatastrophizethe event in front of young children who may only comprehend how “aterrador” the situation is, ella dijo.

We learned a lot after the 9/11 [ataques terroristas] [sobre] family support and the community support around it,” Alvord dijo, adding that it’s still important to acknowledge sadness and grief.

A parent might say, “‘It is terrible, [pero] you are here, you are safe and these are the things we are doing to stay safe,” she advised.

To demonstrate their resilience, people often take action.

Alvord dijo, “For young kids, that could be having a lemonade stand to raise money to help [las víctimas y sus familias].”

Teach your kids to pray

Dr. Meeker said thatgiving children and teens access to God gives them a huge sense of security. Just because our culture doesn’t want God in our schools doesn’t mean that you, as a parent, shouldn’t teach your kids to pray when tragedy strikes,” ella dijo.

Giving your kids something to do and an omniscient God to grab onto when life gets really tough will make a tremendous difference in their ability to overcome fear,” she also said.

Friends pray together in a park. "We live in a world where bad things will happen. But that shouldn’t stop parents from equipping their kids and working with them to overcome challenging times," said Kathy Koch, Doctor.

Friends pray together in a park. “We live in a world where bad things will happen. But that shouldn’t stop parents from equipping their kids and working with them to overcome challenging times,” said Kathy Koch, Doctor. (iStock)

Added Dr. Koch, “Parents can teach and talk about God and his truths — there are moral absolutes and right vs. wrong.

Just because our culture doesn’t want God in our schools doesn’t mean that you, as a parent, shouldn’t teach your kids to pray when tragedy strikes.

— Dr. Meg Meeker

Parents don’t need to couch their answers as their opinions,” she also said. “They should acknowledge that evil is evil — and how good people should respond.

It’s important for a parent to find relevant truth to share with their children about their thoughts and concerns. And if a parent doesn’t know the answer to a question, it’s OK to admit it.

Said Koch as well, “We live in a world where bad things will happen. But that shouldn’t stop parents from equipping their kids and working with them to not only overcome these challenging times — but to be healthy humans who push back against the darkness and evil.

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