“It is frustrating to cancel plans, but you can rage against the machine all day long, but it’s not going to really do any good because it’s not going to help Covid go away,” Donahue said.
Her mother was a terrible cook, Donahue said, but she could make delicious homemade spaghetti. To keep the tradition alive, each family will try and re-create the spaghetti dish for a video call Christmas Eve dinner.
She’s not the best cook — just like her mom — so Donahue might end up “pouring a jar of Ragu in the pan” and telling everyone she made it.
Grieving lost time
Grieving the loss of not seeing family members is a normal reaction that should be embraced, said Vaile Wright, senior director of health care innovation at the American Psychological Association.
Vir baie mense, the holidays are a time where they can come together and let go of the day-to-day stresses of life. People are disappointed they won’t get to see their loved ones in person, Wright said, but that it is a necessary decision to slow the spread of the virus.
“Nobody dies from disappointment, but people die from Covid,” Wright said.
Instead of viewing the holidays as something that’s being taken away, she suggests people reframe it as an opportunity to create new traditions.
“We as a country need to kind of suck it up and find alternative ways to connect with our family members and make this holiday special,” Wright said.
Santa Rampage for two
One of the highlights of Milwaukee resident Karen Waldkirch’s holiday season is the Santa Cycle Rampage
. Oor 3,000 cyclists dress up in their most festive costumes and bike the streets
, spreading Christmas cheer
This year’s annual bike ride was canceled, but Waldkirch still wanted to participate in the event, wat 'n “big shot of joy that kicks off the holiday season.” She and her daughter, Maria Waldkirch, dressed up as Santa and biked around their neighborhood dropping off homemade eggnog.
Although her daughter is spending Christmas with her, she is disappointed that her son, who lives in Los Angeles, is not coming home. It will be the first Christmas in 33 years that she won’t see him, but she knows it’s the right decision to keep everyone safe.
“I know everybody’s losing their minds with impatience, maar die mens, these are small things we have to do to get through this together,” Donahue said.
Canceled family trip
Dr. Jasmyne Jackson at Boston Medical Center has seen firsthand how the coronavirus has disrupted daily life and taken away family members, so she knew it was the right decision to tell her parents to not visit this Christmas. They are both over age 65, which is a high-risk category, and planned to travel from Michigan to visit her in Boston.
“I’d rather have the possibility of having more decades of time than just one singular moment over the holiday,” Jackson said.
Jackson was forced to cancel her wedding last May due to rising Covid numbers. She ended up marrying her now wife, Adrianna Spindle-Jackson, in June in a much smaller wedding that her parents attended virtually.
At the beginning of December, her mother surprised her with a personalized wedding cake ornament. This is the longest she’s gone without seeing her parents in person, so the gift showed that her parents love and support her, Jackson said, even if they can’t be there in person.
She’s hoping that there is a good vaccine dissemination plan over the coming months so that people can eventually celebrate with loved ones.